Gracefully Social: It's Lonely in Bay Ridge Without...

...Jen & James! So, it just hit me. As Sam and I were driving home tonight and were traveling down 4th avenue, we stopped at a light at 4th Ave and 92nd St and I glanced over to their old building. It was a really sad feeling. A very empty feeling.

I have come to realize that 1) I suck at making friends and 2) I suck at keeping friends. Since college, I haven't been able to find someone I could totally relate to (aside from Sam). I've been missing a best friend and kindred spirit in female form. About a year ago, Jen came into my life. We worked together and shared so many of the same interests. Our husbands got along really well, almost too well.

We took short vacations together, we bonded many nights over drinks and good food. Jen and James are two of the only people in the world that we would fly to New Orleans and drive to Florida for. Not to mention that we will always have a special tie to them because Sam officiated their wedding.

When Jen told me they were moving to North Carolina, I was in denial. Up until two days ago, I was in denial. When they came to stay with us last week for one night after making the big move, it didn't hit me. It was just like a fun slumber party. But tomorrow, we'll be enjoying a street festival and we can't call them to come along. They're really gone...

Bottom line - I miss them terribly. This is one friendship that I will do my damndest (!) to maintain. We'll definitely head down to Hickory, NC to visit and I am counting down the days until Jen returns in July for a day or so for a work thang. I know that this is the best place for them to be, but I definitely won't be able to replace the friendship.

Thank G-d for e-mail, cell phones and text messaging. I am vowing to maintain this friendship! I am painfully aware of how much of our weekends was spent with them. I really miss my friend, my partner in crime, my comrade in a shitty workplace and my kindred spirit.